THE BIG NEWS IN MY LIFE (please read)

FalseAbsolution · Post by **FalseAbsolution** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 2:18 pm

I got two things to say:

1- Congradulations and

2- If you have it 3 days earilier than your expected date it will be born on my b-day.

Enjoy it for all it's worth, for you'll miss it when it's all grown up and gone.

lovechild · Post by **lovechild** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 3:20 pm

Thanks for all of the support....and yes i am currently 17 but will have the baby when im 18.....I may be taking some of you up on the clothing, toys, maternaty.....

pryjmaty · Post by **pryjmaty** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 10:08 pm

I've birthed and raised 3...if you need any advice about anything, feel free to email or PM me. My youngest is 10, so all of the baby stuffs is long gone.

Saint Ignatious · Post by **Saint Ignatious** » Mon Sep 22, 2003 11:18 pm

Congratulations!!!!!

MahoganyDawn · Post by **MahoganyDawn** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 2:52 am

May your child be healthy, and both your lives blessed.

coventina · Post by **coventina** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 6:20 pm

I was a young mother myself, a year older than you. My advise is read a bunch of books, ask alot of questions, and get as much sleep as you can now. Also you may wanna check into parenting classes for you and your beau. I went to a great class that was held at a women's crisis center. (it sounds scrary... crisis ...lol) But anyway they were great. I learned about grocery shopping, baby issues, how to give my baby a massage, ect and while I went they gave us baby cash that we could use to buy 2nd hand goods from their baby center. I got diapers, clothes, bottles, breast pump, high chair, stoller, ect from them and didnt have to pay out anything. You might wanna check around and see what you can find out. Also I had really bad mommy blues in late pregnancy and after the birth of my son, so dont feel bad if you arent happy with the situation 100% of the time. Just find someone you can talk to and do things that make you feel like an individual. And both of you need to make special time for each other that isnt baby related.
Also you may want to check into tenncare if you dont have med ins b/c baby will be expensive, and sign up for wic. It helps alot especially if you are young and dont have any money.

and feel free to email me: coventina_dark@yahoo.com

Hardcoregirl · Post by **Hardcoregirl** » Tue Sep 23, 2003 6:29 pm

coventina wrote: women's crisis center. (it sounds scrary... crisis ...lol) But anyway they were great. I learned about grocery shopping, baby issues, how to give my baby a massage, ect and while I went they gave us baby cash that we could use to buy 2nd hand goods from their baby center. I got diapers, clothes, bottles, breast pump, high chair, stoller, ect from them and didnt have to pay out anything.

Thats neat. I got my pregnancy test at one of those and they promised to help me out *so* much if I didn't have an abortion and they never helped me with jack shit.

If you go to one of those places knowing what they are about (coventina-I'm not saying you did), I personallly feel you are supporting these these type people. Which may be your type thing...to each his own. We are all entitled to our own opinions, and if that is yours, go for it. Free stuff is great, I just want you to be aware.

When I look back into how they used scare tactics to make me fear abortion, it makes me a little pissy, because I've worked in an abortion clinic, and even though an abortion wasn't the choice for me, I'd fight someone's right to have one.

Sorry, I had my child at 14 and I feel very strongly about such matters.

Noritha · Post by **Noritha** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 10:02 am

I have a 3 year old so I'd be more than happy to hook you up with some girley stuff if you need it.

and I was dating a guy and had his child, and he and I really weren't that close by the time she arrived. So we didn't get married (as so many people including my parents wanted me too) and I fell in love with my husband and ya know what?

I am so thankful for her and that she has given me a reason to keep going when I felt there was nothing left in life. She's AMAZING and has turned me around.

So yeah I was young. But I wasn't stupid and I made all my choices after carefully considering all the options. And I stuck by them, and am so glad I did.

and it worked out, my husband wants zero biological children, so if I hadn't had my girl when I did, I would have never gotton to go through the mother stuff. And the mother stuff is very very wonderful. Hard, but worth it.

Congrats hon. No matter what you do now, your life will never be the same. And it's not a bad thing.

So yeah, PM me too if you have any questions.

Hardcoregirl · Post by **Hardcoregirl** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 12:08 pm

Here's a tip fer ya:

Don't smoke while pregnant.

Nemesis · Post by **Nemesis** » Sat Sep 27, 2003 12:23 pm

Buttercup wrote:Here's a tip fer ya:

Don't smoke while pregnant.

You just couldn't resist, could you? :lol:

iblis · Post by **iblis** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 8:54 am

Another good tip: The microwave, however tempting, does not a playpen make.

That is all. :mrgreen:

Sir Diddimus · Post by **Sir Diddimus** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 11:50 am

Buttercup wrote:Here's a tip fer ya:

Don't smoke while pregnant.

I have to agree, and I believe I made that very clear at 11th Friday night.

ms.tangledwebs · Post by **ms.tangledwebs** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 5:55 pm

Buttercup wrote:Here's a tip fer ya:

Don't smoke while pregnant.

I have to agree strongly with this one, my wonderful husband has EXTREMELY sever athsma and is literally alergic to everything ( not including foods) thanks to his mother "not knowing any better". Quiting smoking is a sacrifice (if you do in the first place) but the quality of life your child will enjoy will make it all worth while. Another thing I suggest is breast feeding. I can give you a million reasons why you should, if you want them. It is not always easy, but it is worth the trouble.

coventina · Post by **coventina** » Mon Sep 29, 2003 8:12 pm

forgive me cause I dont know how to do that whole quote thing, but in reply to buttercup:

I am against abortion , that is a totally different disscussion however. But I am not one of those ppl. I think it is completely stupid to be so strongly aginstn "killing" and then kill to prove the point . I dont agree with those extemist. I beleive everyone has the right to their own opinion.

The crisis center I went to were very helpful. ANd I am sorry that you were treated poorly, no woman should have to deal with that shit, especially from a place that is supposed to be of help to you. Although I did have a problem with one of the women at the crisis center who pushed breast feeding on me. (which I did for the first 2 months to aid in Rain's brain developement) but I just didnt feel
comfortable and she tried to make me feel like a bad mom b/c of it.
I just avoided the subject and everything else was fine. And as far as I am aware the particalar place I went to would not support those extemist either, although I cannot be totally sure. But it definately didnt seem like it. Other than the one, they were very helpful and supportive of mine and other's opinions.

iblis · Post by **iblis** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 9:53 am

Buttercup wrote:When I look back into how they used scare tactics to make me fear abortion, it makes me a little pissy, because I've worked in an abortion clinic, and even though an abortion wasn't the choice for me, I'd fight someone's right to have one.

Sorry, I had my child at 14 and I feel very strongly about such matters.

karmakaze · Post by **karmakaze** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 11:08 am

lovechild has a lovechild!

Mistress Eve(L) · Post by **Mistress Eve(L)** » Tue Sep 30, 2003 5:52 pm

Dont dishearten......this is wonderful!!!!! we are a community with a common bond and we should definitely support something as well as someone with this big of news. I truly beleive you can do anything you set your mind to. I am willing to bet you would be just as scared if you were 26 and having the baby as you are now in your young age. Take care of eachother.......and congratulations!!!!

dakarpsi · Post by **dakarpsi** » Sat Oct 11, 2003 1:57 am

iblis wrote:
Buttercup wrote:When I look back into how they used scare tactics to make me fear abortion, it makes me a little pissy, because I've worked in an abortion clinic, and even though an abortion wasn't the choice for me, I'd fight someone's right to have one.

Sorry, I had my child at 14 and I feel very strongly about such matters.

I think that's a bit inappropriate Iblis, you're suggesting that killing my child would tickle?

msdelacey · Post by **msdelacey** » Sat Oct 11, 2003 2:59 am

advise from a hippy dippy mom at heart:

don't smoke while pregnant

pregnancy does not give you permission to eat whatever you want.

do it natural.....you need to feel everything

read "childbirth without fear" by dr. dickread

nurse your baby....that's what you have tatas for

don't believe everything the ob/gyn says.....alot of them suck

read all you can.....you are made to do this....it is not a medical 'condition'

good luck and congrats!!

ps: I had my 9 lb 14 oz daughter at home by myself (and her daddy) and was vacumming the house 3 hours after her birth.....you can do it if you only trust yourself and your body