for all of my women friends, you know who you are ;)

BearDragonLady · Post by **BearDragonLady** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 11:32 am

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
one old love she can imagine
going back to...and one who
reminds her how far she has come...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
enough money within her control
to move out and rent a place of her own
even if she never wants to or needs to...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
something perfect to wear if the employer
or date of her dreams wants to see her in an hour...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a youth she's content to leave behind

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a past juicy enough that she's looking forward to
retelling it in her old age....

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a set of screwdrivers, a cordless drill,
and a black lace bra...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
one friend who always makes her laugh... and
one who lets her cry...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a good piece of furniture not previously owned
by anyone else in her family...

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
eight matching plates, wine glasses with stems,
and a recipe for a meal that will make her
guests feel honored..

A WOMAN SHOULD HAVE...
a feeling of control over her destiny...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to fall in love without losing herself...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to quit a job, break up with a lover, and
confront a friend without ruining the friendship...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
when to try harder... and when to walk away...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that she can't change the length of her calves,
the width of her hips, or the nature of her parents...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
that her childhood may not have been perfect...
but its over...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she would and wouldn't do for love or more...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
how to live alone... even if she doesn't like it...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
whom she can trust, whom she can't, and why she
shouldn't take it personally...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
where to go...be it to her best friend's
kitchen table...or a charming inn in the woods...
when her soul needs soothing...

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD KNOW...
what she can and can't accomplish in a day...
a month...and a year...

Hardcoregirl · Post by **Hardcoregirl** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 11:53 am

I have this in a book format published by Ten Speed Press...created by Herter Studio (and friends).

I likes it.

Mellifluosity · Post by **Mellifluosity** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 12:10 pm

That's nice.

Serenity · Post by **Serenity** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 1:54 pm

I agree...very nice and very true. Ah, don't forget every woman should have huge lace-up boots with a large sole to step on anyone that doesn't respect her...and of course big fun spikey cokers and braclets...just because. :aliceandcat:

Don't fight like a girl...fight like a woman. :kill:

jenna · Post by **jenna** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 2:12 pm

Lady Jacinta wrote:I agree...very nice and very true. Ah, don't forget every woman should have huge lace-up boots with a large sole to step on anyone that doesn't respect her...and of course big fun spikey cokers and braclets...just because.

Don't fight like a girl...fight like a woman.

AMEN!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

JaNell · Post by **JaNell** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 2:45 pm

Lady Jacinta wrote:Ah, don't forget every woman should have huge lace-up boots with a large sole to step on anyone that doesn't respect her...

I agree.
As for anyone whose toes I've stepped on - too damn bad!
Y'all shouldn't have been in my way in the first place.
Reference Ophelia's sig if you're confused.

:jazilla:

It's not just an icon,
it's a state of grace.

pryjmaty · Post by **pryjmaty** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 3:30 pm

Exactly what I needed to read.

div · Post by **div** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 4:13 pm

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD ALSO HAVE...
a div to tell her how sexy she is.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD ALSO HAVE...
nude photos of herself to send to the
aforementioned div on a regular basis

JaNell · Post by **JaNell** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 4:30 pm

div wrote:EVERY WOMAN SHOULD ALSO HAVE...
a div to tell her how sexy she is.

EVERY WOMAN SHOULD ALSO HAVE...
nude photos of herself to send to the
aforementioned div on a regular basis

So how is this empowering to women, again?

miz kitty · Post by **miz kitty** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 7:35 pm

I find having a nude photo quite empowering. I want to be able to look back someday and say, "This is what I looked like."
I think every woman should have at least one good nude done in her life. This is the skin you live in, enjoy it....every curve, wrinkle, scar, freckle, and dimple. You've earned them all.

JaNell · Post by **JaNell** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 8:08 pm

miz kitty wrote:I find having a nude photo quite empowering. I want to be able to look back someday and say, "This is what I looked like."
I think every woman should have at least one good nude done in her life. This is the skin you live in, enjoy it....every curve, wrinkle, scar, freckle, and dimple. You've earned them all.

But how is sending them to Div going to help anything?

Shadow · Post by **Shadow** » Tue Jul 08, 2003 11:44 pm

whether I am a friend or foe,
that was nice BearBear.

Mother Mo · Post by **Mother Mo** » Wed Jul 09, 2003 12:04 am

I really enjoyed that. Thanks, Bear!

One of my reps at work gave me something to copy on Saturday & I thought I'd share with you ladies. I've always HATED this word, due to it's negative context in most cases, but this was kind of cool...

"When I stand up for myself and my beliefs, they call me a BITCH.
When I stand up for those I love, they call be a BITCH.
When I speak my mind, think my own thoughts, or do things my own way, they call me a BITCH.

Being a BITCH means I won't compromise what's in my heart.
It means I live life MY way.
It means I won't allow anyone to step on me.
When I refuse to tolerate injustice, and speak against it, I am defined as a BITCH.

The same thing happens when I take time for myself instead of being everyone's maid or when I act a little selfish. It means I have the courage and strength to allow myself to be truly who I am and won't become anyone else's idea of what they think I "should" be. I am outspoken, opinionated, and determined. I want what I want, and there is nothing wrong with that!!

So try to stomp on me, try to douse my inner flame, try to squash every ounce of beauty I hold within me. You WON"T succeed.
And if that makes a BITCH, so be it. I embrace the title and am proud to bear it.

B I T C H
Babe In Total Control of Herself

B I T C H
Beautiful, Intelligent, Talented, Charming, HELL of a woman

B I T C H
Beautiful Individual That Can Handle Anything"

Maybe not such a bad word after all?

JaNell · Post by **JaNell** » Wed Jul 09, 2003 2:31 am

"You say Bitch like it's a bad thing."

Lady Shaper · Post by **Lady Shaper** » Wed Jul 09, 2003 8:30 am

This came at such a right time ladies. Thank you dearly.

QueenOfTheFlock · Post by **QueenOfTheFlock** » Wed Jul 09, 2003 8:58 am

I am completely loving both of those posts. Thanks BDL and Mo.

Serenity · Post by **Serenity** » Thu Jul 10, 2003 1:47 pm

Viva La BITCH! Viva La BITCH!!!

Amazing what a "little broken heart syndrome" can do for someone...it only makes ya stronger... :rock: